Tribe.net. Local Connections peppermint http://BayAreaBDSMPolyamory.tribe.net/thread/528583a2-8ba9-494e-9f73-2009aaadbd1e#55d3aa24-d885-414c-aea9-9de5e2658664 2008-02-25T05:38:48Z 2008-02-25T05:38:48Z

Sunday March 2nd (next Sunday) 12-6pm $40 per person The Citadel: 1277 Mission St at 9th St, San Francisco My partner Jen and I will be presenting a long practical nonmonogamy workshop on March 2nd. We have both been poly or nonmonogamous for quite some time (10 years for her, most of my life for me) and have also spent a lot of time in the poly community. The presentation is meant to be an in-depth exploration of the how-to of nonmonogamy. We take a particularly pragmatic view: we try to go over the good and the bad of it all. For this workshop, we stay away from the heavy ideology and instead focus in on the day-to-day challenges of being polyamorous or otherwise nonmonogamous. We've given a shorter (2 hour) version of this workshop three times now, and we received a lot of positive feedback each time. At the suggestion of some of the participants, we are holding a one-time 6-hour event, which should give us the time we need to actually cover a wide range of subjects around nonmonogamy. Some subjects we intend to cover: Big-picture nonmonogamy stuff: how to put oneself in a better situation, common mistakes, etc. Types of nonmonogamy Various reasons people do nonmonogamy Negotiating relationship boundaries around nonmonogamy General skills for negotiating on hard topics, including some in-workshop exercises Handling jealousy Nurturing new, secondary-style, play buddy, or otherwise less-involved relationships Common pitfalls While this event is held in a BDSM venue and will use examples from the BDSM community, almost everything we discuss will apply equally well to non-kinky relationships. There will also be a good level of audience participation, from audience examples to small group discussions. Everyone will get a good deal of information out of this workshop, whether they are new to the idea of nonmonogamy or have been poly for many years. To get a sense of our style, here's a partial set of the notes (the actual handout will be much longer): http://freaksexual.wordpress.com/2007/09/06/tips-for-practical-nonmonogamy-negotiation/ If you have any questions, feel free to drop me a line. Pepper

peppermint 2008-02-25T05:38:48Z