infidelity while poly

topic posted Tue, March 18, 2008 - 8:05 PM by  Thomas 		Share/Save/Bookmark
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I recently had a friend who was having a conversation with his lover. They were discussing the long term goals of the relationship. They were both looking to and poly to their sex life, not just BDSM. At one point at she turned to him and said "One goal would be to make infidelity not such a big deal". He stated he was not comfortable with that, but needed to say more. Any thoughts?
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  • Re: infidelity while poly

    Wed, March 19, 2008 - 6:13 AM
    I think we need their definition of "infidelity".

    If it means "non-monogamy" well that's what poly is all about and hopefully everyone is OK with it and it is not "a big deal".

    If it means "cheating" and "sex with others outside the agreements", then I agree with "him" and would be totally NOT comfortable with it.

    So again we come down to the root of any successful poly relationship, communication. They need to communicate and define what they mean by "infidelity" and they both need to be totally comfortable with what ever they agree on.

    Hugs,

    Rig Daddy
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